The phrase sleep training often brings cringing thoughts of sobs and tears to parents, and many simply can’t imagine letting their baby cry on his own to fall asleep. Of course, rocking him or nursing him to sleep every night for the next three years isn’t such a great option either. So where does that leave parents who realize babies should learn to sleep on their own, but don’t want to make baby cry?

Books dealing with exactly these sorts of sleep methods are extremely popular. This means many parents are looking to find an alternative route to helping their child sleep through the night without constant feedings and comfort sessions. While most of the published plans differ slightly, they have common elements. These elements include:

Starting early.
A newborn baby is much more likely to fall asleep without a fuss than a toddler, so instead of rocking him into sleepy oblivion every time, lay him down when drowsy and let him fall asleep himself. Stay consistent and your baby will be way ahead of the game. You might not even need to do anything else!

Rock and repeat.
The basic problem with babies that don’t fall asleep on their own is they would rather you do the hard work for them. After all, wouldn’t you like to be snuggled to sleep every two hours when you woke slightly? Many babies also don’t realize they can fall asleep without assistance, so you simply have to show them.

Comfort your baby to the point that he’s drifting off, and then get up and put him in the crib. He might nod off on his own, but more likely he’ll spring up and call out for you. Pick him up again with no words or eye contact. Rock and repeat. Eventually you’ll wear him down to the point that he’s too relaxed and worn out to argue and he’ll just fall asleep. The first time might take hours, but each session will get dramatically shorter until he realized what role he’s supposed to play in the “fall asleep” game.